I try to get you talking but you shy away

[beelikej]

Last chance: is there anybody out there, who can help me with these lyrics?

You can also still educate me on the issue of the meaning of "having sex".

And, for those of you who were wondering about the new colour of my hair, here is a picture!

I've been working late. Will answer mail and comments tomorrow. Promise.

Comments

[tanisafan.livejournal.com]

Eeeh love the hair, it's such a fiery colour!

Can't help you with the lyrics because I don't have a music player (yet) but I'll try to figure out a way to listen closely to the song soon! (Just like I'm listening to Plan and Reveries to learn the lyrics. Not because Brendon's voice makes my ovaries combust in it, oh no *shifty eyes*.)

[beelikej.livejournal.com]

Thankies. I wanted to look slightly spectacular for Saturday, when I will see my BFF again, for the first time in two years (three?).

You are so very devoted to the music. Brendon appreciates that;) Also: weren't you responsible for putting this song on my playlist?

I'm a music nerd, so I just love to talk about music and music theory.
What is a 4-5-6-1 chord progression gonna sound like?

[tanisafan.livejournal.com]

Ohhhh, so exciting! Where are you meeting the BFF?

I know, I'm all about the self-sacrifice *g*. And the song doesn't ring a bell to me so I'm sure I wasn't the one to send it to you. Will go listen intently to the lyrics now!

[beelikej.livejournal.com]

He's having a house warming party. After years of traveling and creating a family of five down south, both him and his wife got a job in the hospital I was born in, which is very weird, considering they come from a completely different part of the country.
I'm going with my mom and we will probably visit gran afterwards.

Huh. I was sure you sent me this song. I hope you manage to catch some of the words I missed:)

[rispacooper.livejournal.com]

Having sex means the business of getting off, and the intense desire to get off and have someone else get off, with more than one person involved. Period.

Anybody saying differently is trying to get out of something. The technicalities and semantics mean very little in reality.

Example: It's okay, I didn't have sex with that other guy, sweetie. I just jacked him off in a bathroom.

Discussion: Is it really okay? I seriously doubt it. Sticking things into other things does not equal sex. It's all about the intent to get off, either yourself or someone else (or some others) in a pleasurable way. (Thus distinguishing it from rape, which is not sex).

Heh.

Penetrative sex is just more male blah blah talk trying to justify their bullshit. Penetration is seen as their ultimate goal (not anyone else's, you understand). Everything else must be less than, by definition.

Men who argue that a blow job isn't sex probably aren't too big on returning the favor with the ladies, if you know what I'm saying. Because somehow that's not sex, it's just an act that leads to penetration, to them, unless *they* are on the receiving end (and still penetrating a mouth). It's male heterocentric thinking.

But if there are two (or more) people doing *whatever* to get each other aroused and excited and to orgasm, then yes, it's sex.

Did that even make sense?

[beelikej.livejournal.com]

Very good explanation, love your example. Does it always have to involve two people though? Because I thought I was having awesome sex, but I have now learned that I'm not having it at all. Hrmfp. I wouldn't label myself 'celibate', but I guess that's the word to use? It sounds so -ehm- virginal.

"They" say a woman reaches her sexual peek at 40 and if that's true then I'm not sure if I will survive. Seriously: it's exhausting, even without a partner.

[rispacooper.livejournal.com]

You could say, I guess, having sex with myself. But somehow it just seems different. Hmm, dunno.

the def. of celibate is not having sex though. so...

As for the rest...I'm getting older but I work with a lot of 18 year old boys (at *their* sexual peak)...I feel like Mae West almost every day. Heh.

[chemfishee.livejournal.com]

Nice color.

As for the issue of the definition, it's due to a generation gap. Plain and simple. Personally, I blame Miley Cyrus. ;)

[beelikej.livejournal.com]

Thanks:)

Meaning the youngsters today wouldn't consider a blow job 'having sex'? I remember a talkshow where a forty-something woman said a blowjob used to be something special, that you would do in an established relationship, while nowadays it's "only" some sort of foreplay.

(I had to google Miley Cyrus, surely she doesn't even know the word, let alone the definition of sex;) *in denial*

[chemfishee.livejournal.com]

Nope. Sex is only mutual genital penetration. Everything else falls under some vague umbrella. *shrug* I honestly think it started with a shift, at least here, into the ABSTINENCE IS THE ONLY WAY mindset. And when they teach that, instead of responsible sex (OMG, NOVEL CONCEPT!), it attaches a stigma or taboo or whatever to genital penetration. So those girls who take purity pledges but don't want their boyfriends to think they're frigid will do 'everything but'. And that has come to mean everything but genital penetration.

I am proud of you for not know who she was immediately. We are constantly inundated with her. I do have to laugh, though, because a condom company offered her $1 million to be their spokesperson.

[sillie]

Oh wow, your hair looks awesome! :D

[beelikej.livejournal.com]

Thanks:)